Disclaimer: I am by no means a professional psychiatrist, therapist, motivational speaker, spiritual guide, etc..However, I am professional at turning lemons into lemonade.
Hey girl heeeyyy! Do you ever have times where you feel like, "Damn! The bills are rolling in faster than my money can hit the account. However, it sure would be bomb if this shit was reversed."Or do you ever feel like, "All I fucking do is work to take care of my child(ren) and bills. What the hell is left for me. Let alone when will I ever see the spotlight shine on the fruits of my damn labor!" These have been my thoughts hundreds of days. I remember a time when I was talking to my mom on the phone and complaining about how I didn't ask to be a single mom and who the hell told me to choose a career path that I had to pay to get paid...reinvest and reinvest into and pay all my bills and my sons tuitions and everyday expenses and extracurricular activities..blah blah and blah (rolls eyes)! Last thing I remember saying was "Why Me!" and her response was, "Why not you? When you complain, you remain..But, when you praise, you raise." That was all she said and it was all I needed to hear. Unfortunately, I just didn’t know it at the time. When I got off the phone, I was so irritated because I wanted sympathy from her. I did not want to hear the wise advice because I was having a meltdown moment.
Now, let's rewind a little bit..when my son’s father got into an accident, I didn't have the proper time to breakdown and stay in bed for months at a time to grieve. His family took complete control over him which left me with one option: focus on supporting my 3 week old baby. My boy is now 2 and I can count on one hand how many times I've had a meltdown and it isn't 5. I was blessed with an extraordinary strength to run the path I'm on. Till this day I can’t explain it...it just kicked in. So, when my mom gave me that advice, the importance of it didn't register, immediately. However, over time as I thought about it, she gave me an important ingredient that would mark the beginning of shift in my life. For every minute I spent complaining, a minute was getting thrown away and I was sowing negative energy into the universe. However, when I stopped complaining, I started attracting different results.
It’s like the game my son plays, “Monkey see, monkey do.” When you’re complaining about all the things going wrong in your life, it creates negative energy. That negative energy is then put out into the universe. So what you attract back is that same energy—monkey see, monkey do. Instead of attracting the path of abundance, you attract the same defeated path you were already on. Remember, “When you praise, you raise. When you complain, you remain.”
I get this is easier said than done. And, you may be thinking how the hell do I get started thinking positive when shit is bad. More importantly how do I stop complaining when it’s the easiest thing to do first?!? Well..let me show you what I did. Feel free to do the same or alter it to accommodate you!
I know that my cell phone is one of the first things I reach for in the morning. As part of my own personal therapy I have to write out my feelings when I’m down on myself. So, I plugged in a morning devotion that I put in my reminders and set for daily at the time I wake up. I hold myself accountable to it. Yes, I slip but it’s there everyday to remind me and get me back on my path...I wrote this exactly 742 days ago and it goes a little something like this:
“Good morning Diamond. This is God speaking to you. Today I will handle your problems and do not require your help. Let go and trust me. I’m helping you establish your life as a woman. Go with what I’ve given you and use it as your navigation tool today.”
From one single mom to another—don’t let your light dim!
P.S. Start plugging in your devotion to look at first thing in the morning. Remember, thoughts become things. Let your thoughts be achievements that most people could only imagine about—while you’re making it a reality. The time is here—live your best life #okkkuuurrr💰!